Posts Tagged ‘family’

The other side of the tunnel

August 17, 2010

This period of transition for my family is finally nearing its end.  It has been a hard.  I will have missed four of the five birthdays, and I will miss my anniversary (today).  I have never not been home for my anniversary.  Sure there have been years we may have played it down and not done much, but I’ve always been home… not this year.

Along the way these few months I’ve learned that I really don’t care about anything unless my family is involved.  Maybe if I wasn’t married, and didn’t have kids I’d make something different of the situation, but I am, and I do.  Even writing for this blog – I should have had lots of time to write, but it wasn’t fun.  Recently, I went hiking and it just seemed pointless.  It brought to mind a memory of being 18 or 19 and biking around Mount Desert Island and thinking I really wished I had someone with which to share the experience.  Fortunately, two years later I did.

These few months I’ve been able to see God work things out exactly how they needed to be, but in ways I could not have predicted.  Having to leave ahead of my family completely removed me from being able to help sell the house.  I was personally unable to directly affect what was going on at home.  I had to depend completely on God to work it out… and I had to be patient all the while.  I’m bad at being patient… I’m worse at giving up control… and I had to do both.

We had so many no-show showings I lost count.  The hours of work that would go into getting the house ready for someone to see, and have them not bother even calling to cancel the appointment was gut wrenching.  I know the effort that goes into showing a house – as hard as it is, its important.  But with almost no “real” showings we eventually settled on a plan for if the house didn’t sell.  I wasn’t sure I could last thought the plan – I missed my wife and my girls (the dogs not so much).

That weekend, the house sold.

Suddenly, all of my time driving and exploring was vitally important.  We had to move in six weeks and find a house to buy in one.  But God was ahead of me again.  He had put at my finger tips the contacts and references and good people necessary to help us find the house that would be best for my family right now.  Its a good house, one that will suit us well for the next five years or so… its hard to even consider what comes after the oldest three are in college… all in the next five years or so…

In a few more weeks we will all be together again, the transition complete, with the challenge of adapting to a new area directly ahead.  I look forward to it.  God has been faithful to us throughout this season and while the process of adapting is going to have its own challenges I am going to (attempt to) patiently wait on His timing and enjoy the season.