Posts Tagged ‘moving’

The other side of the tunnel

August 17, 2010

This period of transition for my family is finally nearing its end.  It has been a hard.  I will have missed four of the five birthdays, and I will miss my anniversary (today).  I have never not been home for my anniversary.  Sure there have been years we may have played it down and not done much, but I’ve always been home… not this year.

Along the way these few months I’ve learned that I really don’t care about anything unless my family is involved.  Maybe if I wasn’t married, and didn’t have kids I’d make something different of the situation, but I am, and I do.  Even writing for this blog – I should have had lots of time to write, but it wasn’t fun.  Recently, I went hiking and it just seemed pointless.  It brought to mind a memory of being 18 or 19 and biking around Mount Desert Island and thinking I really wished I had someone with which to share the experience.  Fortunately, two years later I did.

These few months I’ve been able to see God work things out exactly how they needed to be, but in ways I could not have predicted.  Having to leave ahead of my family completely removed me from being able to help sell the house.  I was personally unable to directly affect what was going on at home.  I had to depend completely on God to work it out… and I had to be patient all the while.  I’m bad at being patient… I’m worse at giving up control… and I had to do both.

We had so many no-show showings I lost count.  The hours of work that would go into getting the house ready for someone to see, and have them not bother even calling to cancel the appointment was gut wrenching.  I know the effort that goes into showing a house – as hard as it is, its important.  But with almost no “real” showings we eventually settled on a plan for if the house didn’t sell.  I wasn’t sure I could last thought the plan – I missed my wife and my girls (the dogs not so much).

That weekend, the house sold.

Suddenly, all of my time driving and exploring was vitally important.  We had to move in six weeks and find a house to buy in one.  But God was ahead of me again.  He had put at my finger tips the contacts and references and good people necessary to help us find the house that would be best for my family right now.  Its a good house, one that will suit us well for the next five years or so… its hard to even consider what comes after the oldest three are in college… all in the next five years or so…

In a few more weeks we will all be together again, the transition complete, with the challenge of adapting to a new area directly ahead.  I look forward to it.  God has been faithful to us throughout this season and while the process of adapting is going to have its own challenges I am going to (attempt to) patiently wait on His timing and enjoy the season.


The Furthor Adventures Of…

May 20, 2010

Its been quiet on the blogging front for a few very good reasons.  Primarily, it is due all that want into my resigning from RIT. We are very excited to announce we are moving to the Cary, North Carolina area so that I may start my new position with Deutsche Bank Global Technologies. It has been hard not talking about what we’ve been doing – only a few close personal friends knew about what we were trying to do.  The waiting was very hard… it required lots of patience

Of late its been all about selling our house in Walworth, NY – it is the last major detail of this move to work out.  If we can’t sell the house in the new few days I’ll have to move down without the family… that’s not the ideal plan, but I am confident that God has a buyer out there for us – everything else has worked out just fine… we just have to be patient…

It is hard to put into words what it means to leave RIT, Rochester, and New York… all at the same time.  The implications are enormous to me and my family.  For example, I am finishing up writing this while proctoring my last final exam for SE361 – a class I love to teach.  We leave some very good people who have been fun to be with (retrieving a bicycle from the canal depths comes to mind) and helpful beyond measure over the years (our last move was a bit crazy).  Also, I am stepping down from my position on the leadership team at Word of Life Christian Fellowship – not a minor deal to me.  I have really enjoyed working with the other members of WOLCF.  However, I do think this is allowing me to step back from a number of responsibilities and reassess what God wants me to be doing.

Another implication is that we are focusing on significantly lightening up our possessions.  Its hard enough to have clothing for seven people in the house let alone anything else… but the general idea is that we need to be ready to do what ever God asks us to do.  Being tied down to so many possessions is counter that idea; it impedes our flexibility and agility to respond when He calls.

In a sense we’re getting a chance to start many things over. This is a very exciting time for us and we are really looking forward to the move (going from 7.3″ snow/week to 7.5″ snow/year also isn’t hard to take).  We pray now for the timely selling of our house so everyone can move at the same time. But more, we pray for the patience to walk in God’s timing knowing that we’re on the right road, but unsure of the exact path the road is taking…

The post title is a nod to a jam track on the very first CD I ever owned of Phil Keaggy‘s : Revelator.

My wife and I thought and prayed… and thought and prayed… and then finally in January, acted.